Valentine’s day Thoughts — Self Love
Picture this, today is Valentine’s day. You get to work and lay your eyes on the first bouquet of flowers on your colleagues desk, then another, and another. You ignore all the hearts and flowers sucking the air out of your small office. It’s lunch time, and all those around you are discussing how they’re spending today with their partners. It shouldn’t bother you to be alone, but it does bother you. All these thoughts of why you’re still single start popping through your mind at lightning speed. You start questioning your looks, your thoughts, your personality, your behaviour, and eventually you start blaming yourself. Blaming yourself for why you don’t have a special person in your life, and what you need to change about yourself to ultimately find love. These negative thoughts will only consume you, and carry you into a dark hole, a hole only you can get yourself out of.
When these thoughts occur, its important to change the narrative and focus on what you love about being you. If you’re focused on changing yourself for a chance at love, odds are this love won’t last. The universe works in mysterious ways, and once you start loving yourself the universe will open the door for you to meet someone. The bigger question here is, how do you love yourself? How do you open yourself up to meeting someone special? Here are a few tips:
Dress to impress yourself
When you wake up in the morning, or go out in the evening, dress up in a way that makes you feel comfortable and confident. Make it a point focus on how you feel.
Speak your mind
Don’t hide who you are, or change your thoughts and beliefs, to feel loved or to fit in. The person sitting opposite to you wants to get to know the real you. If someone doesn’t like you for you, then take this as a sign they aren’t for you.
Spend some time alone
It’s very important to really get to know ourselves; our likes and dislikes, what we want and don’t want in relationships, what feeds our soul and what drains it. Make it a priority to have date nights with yourself; cook your favourite foods, listen to your favourite music, and watch your favourite movies.
Do some soul searching
Draw, paint, write, self express. You don’t have to be an artist or a writer in order to express your emotions through art. Art therapy is a great way to get to the core of why you perceive yourself in the way that you do.
Surround yourself with loved ones
Love is not just a romantic construct. Love is between friends and family, and those around you who make you feel special and cherished. They love you without judgement, learn to see yourself through the eyes of your loved ones.
Remember that Valentine’s Day is just one day a year, but loving yourself lasts a lifetime. Don’t settle for one day out of many, and choose yourself over and over. Love always comes from within first, once you learn to love yourself - you are unstoppable.
